Tantrums

It is common for young children to have tantrums

Teach your child that there are better ways to get what they want or need

Wait until after your child has calmed down to talk about what happened

Great Options

During a tantrum, redirect. Keep it brief! “Let’s take a deep breath” or “Let’s talk after you calm down.” Then ignore the tantrum until your child is calm, even if takes a while.

Set future expectations - “The next time you get upset, try taking a deep breath, or using your words.”

Later, give praise - “I was proud of how you stayed calm after you lost the game.”

Change your daily schedule - Your child may need more support.

Think about your child’s feelings - “I get it! It’s hard when you don’t get your way.”

Teach why - “There are better ways to get what you want or need.”

Be a positive role model - When you are stressed, try to stay calm.

Not Recommended

Give in during a tantrum - If you give in, your child will quickly learn that the tantrum will be rewarded

Punish or humiliate your child - Neither will help in the long run.

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